Beautiful is his heart I can’t capture because he’s so free and lovely and me.
Beautiful are his eyes, the souls disguise to all there is
But I see the depths of his luster, rooted in sandalwood musk…
It must be more to this beautiful man standing before me
As we talk I watch his beautiful layers unfold…
So naked and beautiful shedding his winter blues
When I saw his beautiful smile I knew I loved him before when time didn’t exist
So this reunion was…well…beautiful
Monday, August 23, 2010
Tuesday, July 13, 2010
JUDGMENT DAY
“If you judge people you have no time to love them.” – Mother Teresa
Judgment day doesn’t come until after you die and your life’s work is accessed by the Most High but I think even that is more of an evaluation than a judgment.
Chris Brown has been on America’s most hated list since his scuffle with Rihanna last year but at this years BET Awards there seemed to be a shift of his image in the public eye; from woman beater to poor young soul. Chris had a melt down and cried uncontrollably during his tribute performance to the late Michael Jackson. Ironically Chris Brown was attempting to sing "Man in the Mirror." the song says "I'm starting with the man in the mirror. I'm asking him to change his ways.” That simple statement is gospel and I can see why it moved Chris. A tormented soul will discover that no one can save you, not even the second coming of Yeshua. Self realization is the end all be all. Once we acknowledge that person in the mirror we will discover that we are all the same and the need to judge will vanish.
Why does it take a public display of sadness for us to embrace a man and forgive him? Did Chris owe us his tears? I think one of the biggest lessons we all have to learn in this school of life is to not judge others based on our own ideals and standard traditions. Do you know the root of your judgments? If you could trace the origins I’m sure it was from one man/woman’s perspective which means it is not suitable for every Being on this planet.
I still find myself judging people and I'm starting to catch myself and try to understand the motivation behind it. Let’s face it, it’s a habit to judge because we think we know what’s right but each journey has a different path to enlightenment. One thing is for sure, it's easier to judge someone rather than fix our own imperfections. We have to start seeing ourselves in others. When you find commonalities - even with the people you appraise, the need to judge them will vanish because you will see a soul that is just like you…on an isolated path to rediscover perfection.
Judgment day doesn’t come until after you die and your life’s work is accessed by the Most High but I think even that is more of an evaluation than a judgment.
Chris Brown has been on America’s most hated list since his scuffle with Rihanna last year but at this years BET Awards there seemed to be a shift of his image in the public eye; from woman beater to poor young soul. Chris had a melt down and cried uncontrollably during his tribute performance to the late Michael Jackson. Ironically Chris Brown was attempting to sing "Man in the Mirror." the song says "I'm starting with the man in the mirror. I'm asking him to change his ways.” That simple statement is gospel and I can see why it moved Chris. A tormented soul will discover that no one can save you, not even the second coming of Yeshua. Self realization is the end all be all. Once we acknowledge that person in the mirror we will discover that we are all the same and the need to judge will vanish.
Why does it take a public display of sadness for us to embrace a man and forgive him? Did Chris owe us his tears? I think one of the biggest lessons we all have to learn in this school of life is to not judge others based on our own ideals and standard traditions. Do you know the root of your judgments? If you could trace the origins I’m sure it was from one man/woman’s perspective which means it is not suitable for every Being on this planet.
I still find myself judging people and I'm starting to catch myself and try to understand the motivation behind it. Let’s face it, it’s a habit to judge because we think we know what’s right but each journey has a different path to enlightenment. One thing is for sure, it's easier to judge someone rather than fix our own imperfections. We have to start seeing ourselves in others. When you find commonalities - even with the people you appraise, the need to judge them will vanish because you will see a soul that is just like you…on an isolated path to rediscover perfection.
Monday, June 28, 2010
Don't think so hard - just do it!
We spend too much time incessantly thinking. A thought comes with 1,000 different outcomes but if we instinctively react, we reduce the "what about this" and the "what about that's". The urge to react is immediate but delayed reasonings can push you away from what you are truly supposed to be doing so...JUST DO IT! Yes, I just screamed at you in an attempt to get your inner flame burning. Don't second guess yourself or let lazy thoughts control your life. Putting things off for another day delays the gratification you will receive once you have completed the task.
I used to dread getting up early in the mornings for work and I would lay there and waddle in my own pity. I could literally lay there and in five minutes think of 100 reasons why I shouldn't get up. It made the start of my God-given-day miserable. Now I just get up, give thanks for another day and go to work. Less thought...more action. If one day I wake up and decide never to go to work again, even that would be action motivated and fed by instinctive thought.
Whether it's cleaning the house, paying bills, mowing the lawn or meditating, activate your thoughts! This will bring you growth and expansion as you give your mind the ability to reach for higher things once each task is completed. By responding to your immediate thoughts you activate your PURPOSE. Your purpose cannot be ignited if you don't breath life into your thoughts. If too much thought on one thing is slowing you down, make a decision and put it into action!
I used to dread getting up early in the mornings for work and I would lay there and waddle in my own pity. I could literally lay there and in five minutes think of 100 reasons why I shouldn't get up. It made the start of my God-given-day miserable. Now I just get up, give thanks for another day and go to work. Less thought...more action. If one day I wake up and decide never to go to work again, even that would be action motivated and fed by instinctive thought.
Whether it's cleaning the house, paying bills, mowing the lawn or meditating, activate your thoughts! This will bring you growth and expansion as you give your mind the ability to reach for higher things once each task is completed. By responding to your immediate thoughts you activate your PURPOSE. Your purpose cannot be ignited if you don't breath life into your thoughts. If too much thought on one thing is slowing you down, make a decision and put it into action!
Monday, March 29, 2010
The Resurrection
Spring is here and it’s time for a resurrection. There are parts of us that lay dormant waiting for us to light the flame and rekindle the relationship with self. I’ve talked to a lot of people and everyone seems to be feeling heavy and what better way to feel lighter than to reinvent yourself…be born again. If you feel something is missing in your life – there probably is. Think about what’s missing in your life and execute discipline and faith to revive that sleeping giant. Whatever is missing is simply waiting to be revived; none of this is new, we’ve been here before. The challenge is to remember the key points (good and bad) from our past without being stuck there and use it as vehicle to move forward.
Easter is in a few days and the bible says Jesus (Yeshua) rose from the dead to save us from our sins. Resurrection can happen at any time in our lives but we have to be ready and willing to make a change. Even a subtle change can be vital. Stepping out of your daily routine can be inventive and a step away from the cross that binds you. Breaking cycles help you see beyond your current realm of thinking. Expansion…isn’t that what we are here to do? Expand our existence and overall understanding of life?
Resurrection takes courage, strength and discipline. All characteristics you are born with – even if untapped, they are there for you to explore. Make this celebration of Easter more than about Jesus. It’s been about you all along anyway. In the spirit of spring, find a way to renew yourself. So...what are you waiting for?
Easter is in a few days and the bible says Jesus (Yeshua) rose from the dead to save us from our sins. Resurrection can happen at any time in our lives but we have to be ready and willing to make a change. Even a subtle change can be vital. Stepping out of your daily routine can be inventive and a step away from the cross that binds you. Breaking cycles help you see beyond your current realm of thinking. Expansion…isn’t that what we are here to do? Expand our existence and overall understanding of life?
Resurrection takes courage, strength and discipline. All characteristics you are born with – even if untapped, they are there for you to explore. Make this celebration of Easter more than about Jesus. It’s been about you all along anyway. In the spirit of spring, find a way to renew yourself. So...what are you waiting for?
Tuesday, February 2, 2010
TO WEAR OR NOT TO WEAR A SCARF TO BED
For black women hair is ALWAYS an issue. Whether it’s fried, dyed or laid to the side, hair is a focal point. We decide on all activities based on whether or not our hair will get messed up. I want to work out but my hair…I want to go swimming but my hair…I want to be sexy in bed but my hair…These challenges are the reason why I chose a natural hairstyle so it didn’t interfere with my active lifestyle. Most black women haven’t chosen the natural route so the men who love them need to be more understanding. Look at it this way, if you want her to sleep without a scarf more often – then offer to pay for some of those expensive hair bills. A compromise has to be found because I guarantee you she will not abandon the scarf completely.
Since I was a toddler a scarf was apart of my nightly wardrobe. From blue bandanas to momma’s old nylon stockings, to silk scarves and bonnets – the head wrap was a staple in my house. When I was younger it was easier on my mom so she didn’t have to do anything on a busy school morning but re-twist my ponytails that were flattened like pancakes during my nights sleep. As I got older and did my own hair, I continued wrapping my hair at night because without them my hair would be all over the place.
The scarf became a ritualistic necessity.
Before I locked my hair, I can remember not wanting a man to see me in my scarf at night so I would sacrifice more hours in the mirror the next morning just to save myself from embarrassment but after a few rendezvous’ that scarf was put to use. Is the scarf sexy? Maybe not but neither is a dew rag or snoring in bed. Women – black women in particular, make sacrifices at night to maintain our sexy during the day. I know some men feel like women should be damn near perfect for them all the time but that’s neither fair nor realistic. If it bothers you that a woman needs to wear a head wrap every night and you are starting to find her unattractive, then you may be best dating a woman with natural hair. She is more carefree about her hairdo and seldom wears a scarf to bed. The other option is to remember that wearing a scarf is not a character trait so remember the reasons why you chose her in the first place.
Ladies, do you wear a scarf to bed? Guys, does it bother you to see a woman sleep in a scarf?
Since I was a toddler a scarf was apart of my nightly wardrobe. From blue bandanas to momma’s old nylon stockings, to silk scarves and bonnets – the head wrap was a staple in my house. When I was younger it was easier on my mom so she didn’t have to do anything on a busy school morning but re-twist my ponytails that were flattened like pancakes during my nights sleep. As I got older and did my own hair, I continued wrapping my hair at night because without them my hair would be all over the place.
The scarf became a ritualistic necessity.
Before I locked my hair, I can remember not wanting a man to see me in my scarf at night so I would sacrifice more hours in the mirror the next morning just to save myself from embarrassment but after a few rendezvous’ that scarf was put to use. Is the scarf sexy? Maybe not but neither is a dew rag or snoring in bed. Women – black women in particular, make sacrifices at night to maintain our sexy during the day. I know some men feel like women should be damn near perfect for them all the time but that’s neither fair nor realistic. If it bothers you that a woman needs to wear a head wrap every night and you are starting to find her unattractive, then you may be best dating a woman with natural hair. She is more carefree about her hairdo and seldom wears a scarf to bed. The other option is to remember that wearing a scarf is not a character trait so remember the reasons why you chose her in the first place.
Ladies, do you wear a scarf to bed? Guys, does it bother you to see a woman sleep in a scarf?
Monday, January 25, 2010
Straight Men in Atlanta "Saving" Women from the Gayest City in the Country
By now most of you have heard about the article in Advocate Magazine that voted Atlanta as the gayest city in the country. Okay, I will admit I’m surprised it’s worse than San Francisco but it explains why the heterosexual men here feel they have something to prove. I believe living in a city as gay as Atlanta, the straight men here feel (an unconscious feeling) they have to over compensate to prove their straight. The way they go about doing this, is a good majority of them flaunt their heterosexuality to and with every woman in town! I think they believe they are the single woman’s SAVIOR. Like, “it’s either you date me non-exclusively or you’re left with the gay men at Bull Dogs.” Men are very protective of their rolls as the leaders and providers and living in Atlanta has caused that natural instinct to become elevated and thus out of whack.
There are A LOT of eligible bachelors in Atlanta. Successful, own homes, nice cars, 401k’s with stock options, etc…living the American dream but the American dream doesn’t seem to come equipped with the idea of settling down. Now, I do believe people should be single until they are ready to make a commitment but the men here have no desire to settle down because they are too busy “saving” all the women from the gays. I remember I met a guy from DC who was here visiting and he was quick to say, “Man, if I lived in Atlanta I would be not have a girlfriend.” It’s like Atlanta is the land of the lost single men who are in no hurry to grow up; in no hurry to find just ONE woman to spend their time with. I can’t say that I’m blaming these men because a big part of me feels they are a product of their environment. If I were to transport these same eligible bachelor’s to Minnesota, they’d probably all be married or at least engaged.
The battle of the testosterone is at its peak here in Atlanta because the straight men here don’t EVER want anyone to think they are a member of the high Gays population. These men aren’t making excuses for being straight – but they are acting them out in their dating life to prove a point and the point is being well received by single black women here; IF I WANT A SINGLE, STRAIGHT MAN IN ATLANTA, I HAVE TO SHARE HIM.
There are A LOT of eligible bachelors in Atlanta. Successful, own homes, nice cars, 401k’s with stock options, etc…living the American dream but the American dream doesn’t seem to come equipped with the idea of settling down. Now, I do believe people should be single until they are ready to make a commitment but the men here have no desire to settle down because they are too busy “saving” all the women from the gays. I remember I met a guy from DC who was here visiting and he was quick to say, “Man, if I lived in Atlanta I would be not have a girlfriend.” It’s like Atlanta is the land of the lost single men who are in no hurry to grow up; in no hurry to find just ONE woman to spend their time with. I can’t say that I’m blaming these men because a big part of me feels they are a product of their environment. If I were to transport these same eligible bachelor’s to Minnesota, they’d probably all be married or at least engaged.
The battle of the testosterone is at its peak here in Atlanta because the straight men here don’t EVER want anyone to think they are a member of the high Gays population. These men aren’t making excuses for being straight – but they are acting them out in their dating life to prove a point and the point is being well received by single black women here; IF I WANT A SINGLE, STRAIGHT MAN IN ATLANTA, I HAVE TO SHARE HIM.
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