Straight Men in Atlanta "Saving" Women from the Gayest City in the Country

By now most of you have heard about the article in Advocate Magazine that voted Atlanta as the gayest city in the country. Okay, I will admit I’m surprised it’s worse than San Francisco but it explains why the heterosexual men here feel they have something to prove. I believe living in a city as gay as Atlanta, the straight men here feel (an unconscious feeling) they have to over compensate to prove their straight. The way they go about doing this, is a good majority of them flaunt their heterosexuality to and with every woman in town! I think they believe they are the single woman’s SAVIOR. Like, “it’s either you date me non-exclusively or you’re left with the gay men at Bull Dogs.” Men are very protective of their rolls as the leaders and providers and living in Atlanta has caused that natural instinct to become elevated and thus out of whack.

There are A LOT of eligible bachelors in Atlanta. Successful, own homes, nice cars, 401k’s with stock options, etc…living the American dream but the American dream doesn’t seem to come equipped with the idea of settling down. Now, I do believe people should be single until they are ready to make a commitment but the men here have no desire to settle down because they are too busy “saving” all the women from the gays. I remember I met a guy from DC who was here visiting and he was quick to say, “Man, if I lived in Atlanta I would be not have a girlfriend.” It’s like Atlanta is the land of the lost single men who are in no hurry to grow up; in no hurry to find just ONE woman to spend their time with. I can’t say that I’m blaming these men because a big part of me feels they are a product of their environment. If I were to transport these same eligible bachelor’s to Minnesota, they’d probably all be married or at least engaged.

The battle of the testosterone is at its peak here in Atlanta because the straight men here don’t EVER want anyone to think they are a member of the high Gays population. These men aren’t making excuses for being straight – but they are acting them out in their dating life to prove a point and the point is being well received by single black women here; IF I WANT A SINGLE, STRAIGHT MAN IN ATLANTA, I HAVE TO SHARE HIM.